Is It Ever Right to Use Harsh Words?
August 26, 2013
Is it okay to use harsh speech and tone when several rounds of sweet speech doesn’t help one to mend his or her ways? At times there are people who do not understand sweet or plain language. If harsh language helps to discipline them, the why not?
Joy to you! You ask a simple question but it has a lot of considerations. Unfortunately, there are times when one may have to use, “harsh words and tones.” For example, if a child continues to run out into the street after numerous attempts using sweet words has been in vain — one might have to use harsh words and tone. Otherwise great harm or danger could occur. Law enforcement must use harsh speech and tone, in order create safety. So if danger or harm is possible then harsh words and tone might be appropriate.
Coaches or directors might use harsh speech and tones to make changes in behavior. But that works best after respect and trust has been established between both parties. In the case of coaching, there is a loving exchange that is involved. It’s done in subtle way that challenges and motivates one to use that energy to drive them self to the next level. Some artists and athletes desire harsh lexicon because they see as the energy needed to bring out their best. The student knows that the harshness is done with only the player’s best at heart. The harsh words are done with a much needed sharing of passion, if you will. Speaking for myself, as a professional athlete and coach to other professionals, we saw it and loved coaches who were willing to go the extra mile to push us to the maximum. But, again, we had an unwritten unspoken agreement that allowed what ever it took get us past my limitations — we demanded it. Or we would find someone who would speak in whatever way needed to bring out inner warrior.
Most people do not appreciate harsh speech and tone directed toward them. In fact, sometimes harsh energy creates a powerful resistance to change. Without a mutual agreement, the harshness makes some people rebel with great vigor. When harsh language does force change, the change lasts as long as the fear of being treated negatively is there. Once the fear element leaves the poor behavior returns with a dynamo of resistance to transform.
Harsh expressions can make the person yelling feel very powerful and or good. But it’s a false sense of power. It seldom works to make the other feel better even if they make the change. It is to say, it feeds the ego of the one being harsh. As devotees a very good habit is to keep the ego in check, inspire and learn how to utilize our Inner Divinity. We don’t want to make any action, thought or deed feed the ego. A good habit is tune into Master or our Higher Divinity when we think we need to communicate in a negative way. This way we if we must be harsh grace will take the edge off. A good goal is to communicate change through inspiration whenever possible.
I highly suggest you read, The Art of Supportive Leadership, by Swami Kriyananda. There is a tremendous amount of wisdom regarding how to “lead” people towards the change needed. To order the book, contact Crystal Clarity Publishers at, http://www.crystalclarity.com.
I hope this helps,
What is the Point of Prayer?
July 30, 2013
What is the point of praying when Yogananda says that you can not get more then you deserve? If I deserve little I will get little. It doesn’t matter how much I pray or meditate. It’s all a waste of time. Am I wrong? Did I misunderstand something?
I don’t know where you are quoting Yogananda from, but I do know this; what you deserve is freedom in God. We all do, and Yogananda wanted us all to know this truth. Surely we all have Karma in motion and what is ours will come to us. How we perceive what comes to us is one of our spiritual challenges. When we feel that what is happening in our lives is good, we are happy, when we don’t like what is happening, often we are unhappy. Feeling God’s love and joy is not dependent on any outward circumstance — it is our birthright and we must cultivate our awareness of it through prayer, meditation and devotion. When praying for yourself, pray only for the ability to align yourself with God’s will, and for the power to carry that out.
When you meditate and feel God’s presence, then pray for others as Yogananda taught us to do with Divine Will healing. “Divine Mother thou art omnipresent, thou art in all thy children, thou art in (add a name here), manifest thy healing presence in their body, mind and soul.” Rub your hands together and then hold them out, feeling God’s power flowing out through them to whomever you are praying for. Chant AUM three times. Leave the results in God’s hands. The channel is blessed by that which flows through it.
I Think I Mistakenly Used Black Magic
July 23, 2013
Lately I’ve been experiencing a lot of scary synchronicity. I think I mistakenly used black magic because I put a love spell on someone, but I had no intention of even using magic or doing any harm. Is it wrong to use herbs and things to try and reverse the spell, reverse my magical potency, exorcism, etc? I feel like I’ve sold my soul to Satan and he wants me to use black magic and be faithful in heartless manipulation. I’m scared, I have nightmares. What should I do and not do? Thank you.
It is is very important for you to move quickly away from any connection with black magic. There is power in the forces of evil, and it should be avoided at all costs.
You may have not had harmful intentions, but still you put yourself into a stream of energy, which can cause real turmoil and trouble for yourself or any others involved.
It is healthy and OK for you to be a little bit scared, but deep fear can make things worse. So don’t be afraid, but do take action!
Right now is the time to renounce all connection to the dark forces and begin to do things, which will help you come back into the light of God’s presence within and all around you.
There are many things you can do, but begin with prayer. In the language of your own heart, humbly ask God for help and guidance in this matter. If you have a Guru, call on him or her inwardly to help you do this.
Visualize surrounded yourself with a protective aura of white or golden light. Affirm (either out loud or inwardly — many times for many days). “I am a child of God! I live protected in the fortress of Divine Light. As long as I remain there, nothing and no one can break through and harm me!”
Have absolutely no association, physically, verbally, or mentally, in any way, with anyone who practices black magic. Instead, be around good, spiritually inclined people — people of the Light!
It may take a little time to “mend the holes” you have created your energy field, but with God’s help and protection, you'll be fine.
Never give in to fear. Your experiences can and will pass away, if you do the right things now. Just learn a good lesson and never do it again!
How Does One Deal with “Evil”?
July 23, 2013
How does one deal with the “Evil-Eye”?
As a family, we work hard toward maintaining a happy and trustworthy environment at home. We work hard for what we want and have been respectful toward everyone else around.
But we have also faced losses for no apparent reasons and sense that there are some people around who are never happy to see us happy.
Please shed light as how we could deal with this.
It may be true that someone wishes you ill and is sending bad energy or harmful vibrations your way. If so, it would be important for you to strengthen the auras of yourself and your family.
You might want to read an article I wrote on the subject. It is in one of our back issues of Clarity Magazine. Please see: http://www.anandaclaritymagazine.com/2008/03/auras-astral-electromagnetism/
However, when you say you have faced losses for no apparent reasons, there are always reasons and most of them have to do with past-life karma balancing itself out in this lifetime. Sometimes we just have to push forward cheerfully, do the best we can, and let the karma play itself out.
When people treat you badly or are unhappy to see you, pray for them and send them blessings and healing light. This sort of person is very troubled in themselves and is to be pitied, not feared.
Keep yourself strong through meditation and prayer. Then no matter what happens, come good or bad, you'll be content within your "inner castle of peace."
Does "Luck" Exist?
June 5, 2013
What do guruji’s teachings tell us about 'luck'? Where does the idea fit within the ideas of karma and dharma? Is it just a concept of past karma materializing in the form of what we want? Could you help me decipher and understand the idea? Am I lucky or is it all pure chance, of being in the right place at the right time around the right people?
Thank you! :)
"Luck" is only an appearance, and "pure chance" is perfectly nonexistent in this world. Everything is pure mathematics: what happens to us has to happen, and is mathematically perfect. Einstein said it this way: "God doesn’t play dice with the world." It’s all A+B=C. It is all karma. It looks like luck, or misfortune, but it never is. All creation is governed by law.
Yogananda calls that karmic perfection in his Autobiography the "unerring application of the law of justice which upholds creation’s farthest swinging orb."
He also writes: "When misfortune visits such men, they call it ill-luck or accident. When good fortune arrives, they call it luck or chance. Few realize that their lives are governed by the effects of past actions (karma) and that they are subject to universal laws administered by higher beings."
And: "Because the ordinary person does not perceive how the law of action and reaction is governing his life, he believes that what comes to him is in large part a matter of happenstance and fate. He often says, 'This was my good luck,' or 'That’s my unfortunate lot.' There is no luck that one has not created before, in this or other incarnations."
The only thing that goes above and beyond this relentless karma-equation is grace, which is given by God and Guru, through sincere devotion. That is our true "luck", which can change everything. But it has to be earned.
Our self-effort today will change our karma, and can make us all become "lucky". Yogananda gave a talk on How to prepare your next incarnation: What we are doing now determines our future, including our next incarnation (if such needs to happen). If now we act generously etc., we will be unexpectedly "lucky" in our next life. Fortunate things will happen to us then, "by pure chance".
Good luck, be lucky, jayadev
Energize while fasting?
June 4, 2013
In general, would one be expected to energize less than twice daily and/or do fewer repetitions while doing
Master’s Nine Day Diet/Fast?
I have done Master’s 9-Day Diet a few times on my own, and here at Ananda Village’s Expanding Light Retreat, I have led several programs based on Yogananda’s 9-Day Cleansing & Vitalizing Diet. In his description of the diet, he does not specifically mention anything about the Energization Exercises. However, when he refers to it as a Vitalizing Diet, I have no doubt that he would have encouraged followers of the diet to Energize at least twice daily, and maybe even more.
He states that this diet has the effect of cleansing all the cells of the body, and he makes a similar statement about the role of the Energization Exercises as being effective in bringing fresh prana into every cell of the body. So it makes sense to use the power of Energization Exercises to potentiate both the cleansing and vitalizing effects of this diet.
In my experience, with myself as well a many others, the Energization Exercises are very helpful in assisting one to remember that it’s Cosmic Energy that sustains us and recharges us more than does food. We encourage people to consciously draw on Life Force or Cosmic Energy during the diet, to do the Energization Exercises willingly and gladly, tuning into the reality of being one with immortal Life Energy.
Many people doing this diet experience greater awareness of the subtle flow of energy within them, and many experience increased energy levels while on the diet. All of these benefits would be greatly enhanced by doing more, not less, Energization Exercises while on the diet. So please, do make the effort to Energize at least twice a day, with great concentration and enthusiasm, while you are on Yogananda’s 9-Day Cleansing Diet. They will help you to cleanse and to feel energized on all levels — body, mind, and spirit.
Blessings to you,
Wearing a bindi?
June 4, 2013
I was wondering — What does Master say about wearing a Bindi? I feel a strong desire to wear one, but I don’t know if it’s useful spiritually or would be just a decoration. I’d like to show my commitment to this path, and like the idea of emphasizing my spiritual eye by wearing a Bindi. Does Master say anything on this Subject? It’s kinda a silly question, but I was wondering and had to ask. I know most devout hindu’s in india wear them, but not sure if anyone at Ananda does..
Dear Kris, I have searched through Yogananda’s teachings and have not found a single reference to the wearing of a bindi in the forehead (to emphasize the spirital eye).
You ask if anyone at Ananda does this and the answer is yes, but usually only at special events or celebrations, such as the big Indian banquets we often have, for which most people dress in colorful Indian clothing.
It is good to remember that Yogananda adapted to Western clothing and generally wore something like a Western business suit most of the time, unless he was speaking formally as a Swami; then he would wear the orange ceremonial Swami robes — but even then, never a bindi.
As much as he loved India and Indian food, traditions, etc, he often stated that he did not come to the West to convert people to Hinduism, but rather to teach them the deepest aspects of their own religion (Christianity) and of yoga (meditation practices). So he did his best to "fit in."
Your question is not a silly one, especially since you say that you want to show your commitment to this path. But I’d say that there are better ways of doing that. Better to show your devotion to God and Gurus in your eyes, your smile, and your serviceful attitude to all whom you meet. They will notice! this, believe me!
Advice for Success
May 15, 2013
HELLO ... IM TOO LAZY IN MY STUDIES AND WANT TO BE TOPEST STUDENT AND WANT TO TAKE EXCELLENT % IN MY UNIVERSITY. IM TOO WEAK IN STUDIES AND IM ABSENT MINDED TOO AND I LIVE IN A IMAGINATION (DREAMY WORLD) AND I TALK WITH MYSELF !
AND I WANT TO BECAOME A SUCCESSFULL ENGINEER.
WAHT SHOULD I DO ? WILL U PLEASE HELP ME ?
Many people suffer from the problem you describe: we want success but we don’t want to put out the effort that it takes to become successful.
One of the keys to success is to start small: start with things you can do today! Right Now! With day-to-day duties, if you say you are going to do something, SIMPLY DO IT!
It’s ok to dream a little, but balance that by applying yourself to what is in front of you: helping out at home; helping a friend, a neighbor; improving your skills through education; it’s ok to think big but act "real". As God has created this universe which is very complex and detailed, so too our work here is to be creative and accomplish good things in God’s name.
Take one step in front of you; look around you; see what is needed and what you should be doing. When life lies ahead of you like a blank slate, everything and anything seems possible. But in truth, you have to take steps and make decisions and soon the path becomes clear and very solid.
Although you didn’t say so, I hope you have some kind of prayerful or meditative practice. Calming the mind and opening the heart to God’s presence can be a powerful way to bring reality into your life so you know what steps to take next.
So, do simple things; do obvious things; then add the unusual to that! We have a saying here in America: "Think globally; act, locally!" So, think big, but act now!
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