November 16
2009
sanjay
india
Question
I am non assertive type person. Sometimes my bosses and collegues take undue advantages of this and cannot reuse them or assert myself . How I can become assertive in my life.
Answer
Dear Sanjay,
You say that others take advantage of you, so that tells me some good news: You know what is right and what is not right, what is healthy interpersonal behavior and what is not.
Then comes your big question, “Why do I not stand up for what is right? What attitude of mine makes me willingly participate in unhealthy behavior? Is it fear of others’ disapproval? Fear of making a mistake? Low self-esteem? Not caring enough about anything to take a stand?” Work out the answer for yourself. Then will you know better what to do about it.




