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September 8
2014

Sangita
India

Question

I find it difficult to say no when people demand or request something even if it causes me inconvenience. Some people are very pushy and simply not ready to respect my convenience. If I deal with them sternly some understand while others feel offended. Even if their offense is unjustified, I feel guilty if they show disappointment and try to make up in some way or the other. It stresses me. How do I deal with them?

Nayaswami Diksha

Nayaswami Diksha

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Sangita,

To relate to other people’s needs in a balanced way, it’s important to develop healthy boundaries. Everyone needs them, yet establishing them take time and patience. It comes through trial and error, and it is time for you to begin that process. You will make mistakes, and that is part of getting clear.

September 8
2014

Julie
USA

Question

I am bereft. I took in two starving feral cats years ago. One died from cancer, and the second cat just died while I was away from home for a wedding. I loved these cats and also the dogs that have been a part of our family. I am wondering if Master, or our line of Gurus, have given any advice about the loss of our pets? Will we see them again when we pass from this plane of existence? It would be comforting to know that this would be possible. Thank you.

Nayaswami Hriman

Nayaswami Hriman

Ananda Seattle

Answer

Dear Julie,

I am truly sorry for your loss. Though not a pet owner myself, I have many, many friends who are and who are dearly supportive and loving in their relationship with their pets. I am not aware of Master’s comments as to whether we remain in contact with our departed pets via some future life, whether “above,” or here again, but I can vouch for the teaching that pets (dogs, cats, horses, esp.) are very close to human incarnation. Their very closeness to humans is part of and an encouragement to their evolution upwards toward the human form. Master also repeated that some pets and other animals are SO HUMAN in their character and consciousness that they WERE in human form previously and, owing to some karma or another, “regressed” back to animal form. Why that is so will vary considerably: sometimes by soul choice other times by living more animal-like or instinctually (than consciously) when in human form.

Sangita
India

Question

Namashkar! We have grown up learning that a man of strength in character apologizes when he wrongs someone. He is not scared or ashamed to say sorry to make the victim feel better. On the contrary, recently I read an article in which American psychologists say that apologizing may not be a good idea always as we give away our power to the victim. It may lead to lowering of our self esteem. Which one holds more truth?

Nayaswami Hriman

Nayaswami Hriman

Ananda Seattle

Answer

Dear Sangita,

Those “American psychologists” may have had particular circumstances in mind, but, in general, it IS the right thing to apologize (and make amends, where possible). Under most circumstances there will be no DISadvantage to do so and every moral and spiritual reason to “do the right thing.”

jayantkumar dhruv
india

Question

Why should we believe in God ?

And what is God ? And who created God ?

Nayaswami Pranaba

Nayaswami Pranaba

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Jayantkumar,

These are deep questions!

I think anyone who has any sensibility realizes that there must be something beyond the finitude of what can be experienced through the senses. Having an understanding of the possibility of infinity, naturally leads one to tune into what we call “God”. It isn’t that we should believe in God, but rather it’s important to experience expanded consciousness, which is simply another description of God.

September 1
2014

Sunil P
India

Question

Hello!

Swami Kriyananda said that everything is predestined and all the free will we have is to seek God or reject him. If we are already predestined, where does the freedom to seek God fit into this, and isn’t that the violation of predestination? And if we make a choice here, aren’t we altering the future and so called predestination? Will that not disturb God’s plan? How will he know the future then? SK said that if nothing was predestined, how can God know the future. Please help.

Nayaswami Parvati

Nayaswami Parvati

Ananda Village

Answer

This issue of karma and free will is a complex one. If we try to over-think it, and to “figure it all out” then it only becomes more confusing! What is important to understand is what you can actually do about it. Here are some things I have understood on this topic.

paige
usa

Question

Is starting a family a mistake on the spiritual path? My sadhana is much shorter than it was before I had a child, and I sometimes wonder if we made the right choice. Yet I do feel closer to God than ever even though the meditation portion of my life has decreased. Could you lend some insight to this?

Nayaswami Hriman

Nayaswami Hriman

Ananda Seattle

Answer

Dear Friend,

The results of your decision reveal to you a greater depth and Atunement even in spite of having less time to meditate. God can come to us whenever we are, for God is our very Self. As our hearts are attuned to the divine presence we will feel that presence in ourselves, in our children, in every moment.

Indrani
India

Question

If despite not so good behavior, one has a soft corner for someone due to past connections, is it a weakness and attachment, or is it true love?

Nayaswami Seva

Nayaswami Seva

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Indrani,

Choose always to love. But understand that love needs to come from a higher source, such as your guru or God. I have found that we do not really know what love is as it gets all tangled with emotions and past experiences. It is best to always turn toward God and draw his light and love into your heart and spiritual eye. You are ready then to give love to all.

valerie
usa

Question

I work in a place that has people who influence my old bad habits. But the job pays well and I need to support my family. How can I distance myself so that these tendencies are not activated?

Kristy Fassler-Hecht

Kristy Fassler-Hecht

Ananda Maine

Answer

Dear Valerie,

I understand you are trying to put some unhealthy or harmful habits behind you and those you work with still engage in those same diversions and perhaps encourage you to do the same. Your resolve is being tested!

Here are 5 suggestions to help you:

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