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Bakari
USA

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I struggle to know what is more required of me in my situation of living in my grandmothers home, and being at the mercy of a financially struggling family. I want to make sure that I implement my responsibility as a contributor through monetary support, but I also feel that God realization is most important, yet seemingly luxurious.

What are your thoughts on this?

Nayaswami Premdas

Nayaswami Premdas

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Bakari,

Sometimes life circumstances are hard for us as they provoke a reaction, karmic in nature. Circumstances are neutral, Yogananda said. Our reaction to them is due to memories in our energy fields that we associate with who we define ourselves as. Surely you are a family member and want to contribute. And God-realization is not a luxury, it is your right and a joy! Yes, you can have both today and in these times. You do not have to become a renunciate/monk in the traditional way to find the keys to your happiness, your joy, your bliss. So, learn to detach yourself from these circumstances by playing the part and seeing God playing the grandson through you and honor the karmic connections among your family.

February 18
2014

Geo Grant
US

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How can one recover from making the mistake of associating with a very negative, threatening person? I was on vacation in Hawaii staying in a hostel and came across an ex Special Forces, very negative, angry man who out of kindness I gave a ride to the beach.

Later that day, he started drinking, and sneaked up behind me, grabbed me and proceeded to demonstrate how to kill someone using various techniques. The next day the man apologized, but for me I feel some damage was done. How to recover?

Puru (Joseph) Selbie

Puru (Joseph) Selbie

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Geo,

Sudden and frightening experiences can often leave us unsettled. Sometimes such an experience “stays with us” well after it is over. You may want to try the following technique:

Stand quietly with eyes closed. After a few moments, keeping your eyes closed, slowly raise your arms. As you do so, visualize a sphere of light surrounding your body. You may want to lower and then raise your arms several times to “strengthen” the aura of light in which you are now safe, centered, and protected. Imagine that wherever you go, whatever you do, you are protected in God’s light.

RN
nz

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Hi there,

When I fall in love with someone (It‘s a new feeling for me. My last relationship was 6 years ago, and this is only a few months old.) I have noticed I want to be around that person all the time, and I imagine my future with this person. How do I meditate to help me see my path of life I have chosen is right and true?

Nayaswami Parvati

Nayaswami Parvati

Ananda Village

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Dear friend,

It’s interesting that you phrase your new relationship as “Falling in love.” In a new relationship of any kind I would suggest you use this phrase instead, “Getting to know you.” Whether it’s simple friendship or a romantic relationship, it’s best to take the time to get to know the other person first in a number of different ways, rather than assuming that something more is going on. I would assume an attitude of friendship as a basis, then try to have various kinds of interactions with that person such as working with them, enjoying entertainment, etc. Sexual energy can very much distort what is most important in a relationship, so it’s best to get through the initial energies of finally finding someone who may be “the one.” Take the time to see which direction this new connection is going in. Do you really like them as a person and is there good compatibility “chemistry” between you? Are you moving in the same direction spiritually? Do they meditate? How do you each feel about family life, social life, and spending time apart? Will you enjoy spending time with their family (because you most likely will!)?

Shainee Chakraborty
India

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Dear Sir/Madam,

Please accept my Pranam! I saw a dream on Friday night that my mother was in the hospital, and two days later I found out that she has had fever since Friday night. I am married and live with my husband in a different city.

Is it just a coincidence? This had happened once before also. Though it was not about illness but it was a different dream and it came true. Please show me the path.

Thank you so much and I am glad to find your website.

Nayaswami Savitri

Nayaswami Savitri

Ananda Village

Answer

Pranam to you also, Shainee,

We are also glad you found our website. Welcome!

Our nightly dreams are often very interesting and sometimes can be important to pay attention to. Paramhansa Yogananda says that most of our nightly dreams are simply “movies” produced by our subconscious minds and and meant only to entertain us while we rest.

A Singh
India

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Hi Ananda Members!

By God’s grace I get to know the real intentions/feelings of people around me, no matter how hard they try to hide from me or others. And it so happens that time also reveals those things sooner or later. Now my problem is I am always silent and just watch everything instead of speaking out and I do suppress my feelings and anger which causes trouble to me in many ways. Please suggest how can I best handle such revelations and still maintain my calm. Thank you.

Puru (Joseph) Selbie

Puru (Joseph) Selbie

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear A Singh,

Yogananda often said that we are here to learn to love. We are not here to correct the behavior of others. As we deepen spiritually we can often more clearly see the faults and selfish motivations of those around us. Our challenge is to learn to give them our unconditional, non-judgmental love regardless of their behavior.

Sonia
India

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Does prayer asking for forgiveness for our bad karma, after we have learned our lesson, actually work?

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Karma involves action, and reaction... So prayer and devotion, as divine actions can certainly help to expiate our bad karma. Why? Because when we have harmed others in one way or another, we have forgotten that God resides in each and every human being. These words of Jesus Christ describe it well:

A Singh
India

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Although I am not officially trained as a healer, whenever I pray for someone in deep trouble (could be physical or mental), he/she feels some relief or in fortunate situations a total relief. Every time I get this affirmation there is an inner feeling that I should channel my energies and focus more, as I do not actually know how to direct God’s healing power. Please suggest ways in which I can send healing vibes to others in best possible way. Thank you!

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

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It sounds like you have a natural attunement and affinity for sending healing energy. Paramhansa Yogananda shared many deep teachings on the topic. To learn more I suggest you look through this section on Healing Resources: Many Ways to Share in the Blessings.

G
Canada

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Hello,

I want to know how to completely sublimate sexual desires which greatly impede the ability to concentrate and perform sadhana?

Nayaswami Hriman

Nayaswami Hriman

Ananda Seattle

Answer

Dear Friend,

When a general plans an invasion of enemy territory he must obtain information about the preparedness and relative strength of the enemy forces.

Sexual desires (which includes romantic impulses and much more) are no mere tyro when it comes to complete sublimation. One must proceed with calmness and view one’s efforts in the long-term, lest one find oneself completely routed and fall into an abyss of utter defeat!

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