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Marcela
Santiago of Chile

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Hi Dear Ananda Members,

I‘m happy I found this site. I just saw videos of Mary Kretzmann and I’m very interested in sending energy to my father who is going through a difficult time. Very recently I have started to meditate, so I find it a little difficult this technique of prayer. Especially if it is a family, because emotions do not help me. How I can improve this? And finally, will you be able to help my family and send energy, while I learn? Thank you very much.

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

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Thank you for your question. Yes — you are right. When someone in your own family is going through something, it can be difficult to pray deeply, because it may awaken your emotions of fear or sadness. That is why it is important to ask others to pray with you.

We can help you pray for your father; you can submit a prayer request here. I think part of the problem is that you feel all of the responsibility to help your father is upon your shoulders. Remember that he is God’s child. When you know that we are praying with you, I feel that your own heart will relax and you will begin to feel some of Divine Mother’s healing grace flowing through you.

February 24
2014

RN
nz

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Hi, I always find it hard to progress with friendships beyond the first initial contact. How do you earn people‘s respect, friendship, and caring attitude? How do you learn which people are worth your time and which are using you? Or which are jealous of you. I am considered an attractive female and extremely sensitive and shy. This combination always makes it hard for me to open up discussions or immerse myself in conversations where people don't ask me questions or I am asking all the questions etc.

Nayaswami Sahaja

Nayaswami Sahaja

Ananda Village

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Dear one,

Our dear Swami Kriyananda, aka J. Donald Walters, wrote a wonderful little booklet called Secrets of Friendship.

My suggestions here are based on those “Secrets”.

First of all you must be a friend. You can do this by demanding nothing from others but instead showing appreciation. Don’t worry about getting friends to listen to you, actively listen to them. Take action when a friend needs help.

February 24
2014

N
India

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Dear Nayaswami Hriman, I’ve recently started dating a man, who as it turns out, is an atheist. We’re still getting to know each other, but I feel like this bit of info has thrown me off. It’s not that I feel superior because of my meditation practice (which he says he’d like to learn) but I feel like I am constantly looking for flaws in him now. Like a bad temper, unkindness, horns(!!) I am praying for help and guidance, but feel like something’s “stuck” in my heart! What should I do? :(

Nayaswami Hriman

Nayaswami Hriman

Ananda Seattle

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Dear Friend,

As Paramhansa Yogananda (and many others) have said, “Your beliefs won’t save you.” This is as true for religionists as for atheists! Or as Ralph Waldo Emerson once put it, “Who you are speaks so loudly I can’t hear your words.”

How often do we see orthodox believers who believe all the “right” things but who treat others unkindly or with judgment?

February 24
2014

milton
usa

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I was wondering how to interpret the words from Jesus, “I am the way, the truth, and the light. No one comes to the Father but by me.”

What most Christians think is that this means Jesus is the only possible way to achieve salvation and all other masters are incapable and false. How to understand better and explain to them the yogic perspective?

Nayaswami Savitri

Nayaswami Savitri

Ananda Village

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Dear Milton, Paramhansa Yogananda explains carefully that Jesus spoke in two ways at different times, as a human being and as the Son of God. When speaking as a human, he said things like: “Bring me the fish you just caught.” [John 21:12] That “me” was Jesus speaking as a human being, for certainly he needed a human body and personality to work through.

Bakari
USA

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I struggle to know what is more required of me in my situation of living in my grandmothers home, and being at the mercy of a financially struggling family. I want to make sure that I implement my responsibility as a contributor through monetary support, but I also feel that God realization is most important, yet seemingly luxurious.

What are your thoughts on this?

Nayaswami Premdas

Nayaswami Premdas

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Bakari,

Sometimes life circumstances are hard for us as they provoke a reaction, karmic in nature. Circumstances are neutral, Yogananda said. Our reaction to them is due to memories in our energy fields that we associate with who we define ourselves as. Surely you are a family member and want to contribute. And God-realization is not a luxury, it is your right and a joy! Yes, you can have both today and in these times. You do not have to become a renunciate/monk in the traditional way to find the keys to your happiness, your joy, your bliss. So, learn to detach yourself from these circumstances by playing the part and seeing God playing the grandson through you and honor the karmic connections among your family.

February 18
2014

Geo Grant
US

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How can one recover from making the mistake of associating with a very negative, threatening person? I was on vacation in Hawaii staying in a hostel and came across an ex Special Forces, very negative, angry man who out of kindness I gave a ride to the beach.

Later that day, he started drinking, and sneaked up behind me, grabbed me and proceeded to demonstrate how to kill someone using various techniques. The next day the man apologized, but for me I feel some damage was done. How to recover?

Puru (Joseph) Selbie

Puru (Joseph) Selbie

Ananda Village

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Dear Geo,

Sudden and frightening experiences can often leave us unsettled. Sometimes such an experience “stays with us” well after it is over. You may want to try the following technique:

Stand quietly with eyes closed. After a few moments, keeping your eyes closed, slowly raise your arms. As you do so, visualize a sphere of light surrounding your body. You may want to lower and then raise your arms several times to “strengthen” the aura of light in which you are now safe, centered, and protected. Imagine that wherever you go, whatever you do, you are protected in God’s light.

RN
nz

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Hi there,

When I fall in love with someone (It‘s a new feeling for me. My last relationship was 6 years ago, and this is only a few months old.) I have noticed I want to be around that person all the time, and I imagine my future with this person. How do I meditate to help me see my path of life I have chosen is right and true?

Nayaswami Parvati

Nayaswami Parvati

Ananda Village

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Dear friend,

It’s interesting that you phrase your new relationship as “Falling in love.” In a new relationship of any kind I would suggest you use this phrase instead, “Getting to know you.” Whether it’s simple friendship or a romantic relationship, it’s best to take the time to get to know the other person first in a number of different ways, rather than assuming that something more is going on. I would assume an attitude of friendship as a basis, then try to have various kinds of interactions with that person such as working with them, enjoying entertainment, etc. Sexual energy can very much distort what is most important in a relationship, so it’s best to get through the initial energies of finally finding someone who may be “the one.” Take the time to see which direction this new connection is going in. Do you really like them as a person and is there good compatibility “chemistry” between you? Are you moving in the same direction spiritually? Do they meditate? How do you each feel about family life, social life, and spending time apart? Will you enjoy spending time with their family (because you most likely will!)?

Shainee Chakraborty
India

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Dear Sir/Madam,

Please accept my Pranam! I saw a dream on Friday night that my mother was in the hospital, and two days later I found out that she has had fever since Friday night. I am married and live with my husband in a different city.

Is it just a coincidence? This had happened once before also. Though it was not about illness but it was a different dream and it came true. Please show me the path.

Thank you so much and I am glad to find your website.

Nayaswami Savitri

Nayaswami Savitri

Ananda Village

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Pranam to you also, Shainee,

We are also glad you found our website. Welcome!

Our nightly dreams are often very interesting and sometimes can be important to pay attention to. Paramhansa Yogananda says that most of our nightly dreams are simply “movies” produced by our subconscious minds and and meant only to entertain us while we rest.

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