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November 4
2014

g s nayyar
india

Question

I have lost my father recently. I miss him terribly many times in the day. I want to have some contact. he never comes in my dream also. though my mother sees him dreams often. has he forgotten me. Is it final goodbye. the thought makes me miserable. God bless him always.

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

I am so very sorry for your loss. And I apologize that I let some time go by before replying to you.

My own husband died a little over 2 years ago, so I do understand what your family is going through. My grown children were ages 19, 27 and 31 at the time. Our hearts were broken, but we have gotten stronger with time.

N
Austria

Question

Hello

I have recently met a man who is wonderful, isn’t particularly spiritual but supports me in my path and is supportive and helpful and very loving. I realized recently that I have a problem with lying, I do it even without knowing when or why and for little things — how do I rid myself of this so as to protect me and our relationship? I feel so sad and disappointed in myself, I find myself crying a lot and think of ending my life sometimes... I am not sure what is wrong. What do I do?

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Congratulations on finding a wonderful man. Even though he is not yet on the spiritual path, from what you describe he exhibits spiritual qualities. So, for now, give thanks for that.

It is a concern, however, that while you are on the spiritual path, you have this nagging habit of lying, even in inconsequential matters. It doesn’t makes sense, unless in a past life you had to make a habit of lying — but the question is, Why? Were you a spy? Or did this habit develop in childhood? Whatever the reason, you are wise to see that this will destroy a relationship. And, ironically, you were honest here about having this problem of dishonesty. So there is hope. But, please stop crying and berating yourself about lying, just forget about that.

November 3
2014

K Kaul
Australia

Question

Hi

I would like to practice a healing mantra. I note our Guru didn’t focus on these. Can I use a healing mantra given on YouTube by Gurunath? Do you recommend any? What are. Your views on mantras for healing? Thanks

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

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Thank you for your question. Do you mean Yogiraj Gurunath Siddanath? I wasn’t sure what to say at first, because I had never listened to him, so I looked him up on YouTube. I listened to one of his mantras and it was powerful, and reminded me of a mantra Swami Kriyananda had taught to us here in Ananda Village. ("AUM hreeng kleeng...") It was powerful listening to the mantra on YouTube just now, and I understand why you feel it would be beneficial.

Saranya
India

Question

Nameste guruji, I am 28yr old female from India delivered a baby boy before 9 months via c section,since i had some lactation problem from beginning we meet a lactation consultant for that,she prescribed me a tablet called perinorm for increasing my milk supply, which in turn produced so many neurological side effects on me.We met so many neurologists but no one is able to provide me correct diagnosis or treatment,currently I am facing more health,financial as well as depression, please help me

Also, one of my friends committed suicide due to depression i just wanted to know whether it is a bad karma?and whether she will suffer for that in her birth? and now i am undergoing sever physical health issues along with psychological issues and wanted to end my life...but as i am afraid that i will create bad karma...but sometimes i feel instead of being alive and create bad thoughts about my health and circumstances its better to die...:( kindly guide me

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Sister,

Your two questions cover many areas, so I will begin with your postpartum issues first. I am a mother of 3 grown children and I also have a grandchild. I trained as a home birth midwife years ago, and for the last 25 years or so, I have served as Director of the Ananda Healing Prayer Ministry. So I offer my advice from a combination of that knowledge. Please excuse my lengthy response, but I want to help you as much as possible with this serious combination of difficulties.

Rafal
Poland

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I feel strong tendency in my mind and very very strong in my heart to go into situations which cause a lot of pain. I am aware of that I do things which will cause more suffering but I cannot resist it. I feel like I want more and more pain. And on the one hand I do things which cause it, and on the other I feel guilty and am sorry for myself.

I’m torn between these two forces. I ralely find a moment of peace lately. Should I sink into this tendency? Give up to this not reasonable tendency?

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Dear Rafal,

I am sorry you are suffering like this. We each have to make the choice in our lives, every day, to lift our energy toward our higher potential. Laziness or the downward pull can try to catch us in many ways.

You are feeling it particularly strong right now, but you are also reaching up to the Light, and to your higher nature, that you have taken the time to write and ask this question. So, no, please don’t give up and give in to the downward pull. Try to resist it each day with some kind of positive energy. This will help you will get stronger, and you will begin to feel inner peace. Take positive steps like going for a walk, or doing even more vigorous exercise, if you are able to do so. And please visit this page and do this affirmation every day for a month. It will help life your energy. This affirmation has the power to change you life, by reversing that downward pull into a healthy, upward direction. In the beginning, please do the affirmation along with me in the video so you can give it proper vigor and vitality. Do it this way for many days, and gradually you can do it on your own. The most important thing is to do it with energy, and with your focus uplifted to the point between the eyebrows, the seat of divine will in the body. The affirmation will help you to awaken that spiritual will power, and it will help you in all areas of your life.

Smriti
India

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I had an intuition of losing my father, and the next morning I got the news of his death. I was far away from his residence. I am not able to cope with this loss and why did such a message come to me? Secondly, for last 30 years he kept fasting on Tuesday and had too much faith in god Hanumanji. He died on that day. Why? Will I ever meet him in any form? I really miss him a lot.

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Please receive my deepest condolences on the loss of your father. And yes — you will see him again. In the Autobiography of a Yogi, by Paramhansa Yogananda, there is a wonderful chapter about life after death in the the astral world: The Resurrection of Sri Yukteswar where we are told:

John
Italy

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Dear brothers and sisters in One,

Recently I read ”Autobiography“ and I really fell in love with the amazing guru Yogananda. In my heart I feel a strong desire to follow Him.

My question is: I am a Reiki practitioner for many years (I’m a Reiki Master-Teacher). Reiki helped me very much with my health condition, but most with my spiritual growth. Is it ok to practice kriya yoga and Reiki?

I owe Reiki so much and I don’t feel ready to abandon it.

Thank you in advance for your time and effort!

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Thank you for your question, for it is one that often comes up. First — listen to your heart. You read his book, Autobiography of a Yogi and “fell in love with the amazing Guru, Yogananda.”

That is wonderful! That is a precious gift to feel that connection with the Master!

Marcela
Santiago of Chile

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Hi Dear Ananda Members,

I‘m happy I found this site. I just saw videos of Mary Kretzmann and I’m very interested in sending energy to my father who is going through a difficult time. Very recently I have started to meditate, so I find it a little difficult this technique of prayer. Especially if it is a family, because emotions do not help me. How I can improve this? And finally, will you be able to help my family and send energy, while I learn? Thank you very much.

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Thank you for your question. Yes — you are right. When someone in your own family is going through something, it can be difficult to pray deeply, because it may awaken your emotions of fear or sadness. That is why it is important to ask others to pray with you.

We can help you pray for your father; you can submit a prayer request here. I think part of the problem is that you feel all of the responsibility to help your father is upon your shoulders. Remember that he is God’s child. When you know that we are praying with you, I feel that your own heart will relax and you will begin to feel some of Divine Mother’s healing grace flowing through you.

Sonia
India

Question

Does prayer asking for forgiveness for our bad karma, after we have learned our lesson, actually work?

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

Karma involves action, and reaction... So prayer and devotion, as divine actions can certainly help to expiate our bad karma. Why? Because when we have harmed others in one way or another, we have forgotten that God resides in each and every human being. These words of Jesus Christ describe it well:

A Singh
India

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Although I am not officially trained as a healer, whenever I pray for someone in deep trouble (could be physical or mental), he/she feels some relief or in fortunate situations a total relief. Every time I get this affirmation there is an inner feeling that I should channel my energies and focus more, as I do not actually know how to direct God’s healing power. Please suggest ways in which I can send healing vibes to others in best possible way. Thank you!

Mary Kretzmann

Mary Kretzmann

Ananda Village

Answer

It sounds like you have a natural attunement and affinity for sending healing energy. Paramhansa Yogananda shared many deep teachings on the topic. To learn more I suggest you look through this section on Healing Resources: Many Ways to Share in the Blessings.

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