Being with a Dying Loved One – as a Kriya Yogi


I have been a nurse in both oncology and the ICU for most of my career. I am "comfortable" with death of the body, and have witnessed many. Several were quite significant gifts to me spiritually. My question now, as a kriya yogi, is, what is the "best" way to be with someone who is dying? On what, or where to focus my energy for their benefit etc? This is for family, not patients, if there is any difference. Thank you!

—Diana, USA


Dear Diana,

Being present with anyone is, of course, most important.

What does it mean to be present? To be aware. Be aware of your feelings as well as the feelings of the one you are with. Focus your attention at the point between the eyebrows and listen to your heart. What needs to be said? How can you be of service? Be aware of the breath. It is a very good indicator of how we are reacting to a situation.

The Gayatri mantra and Mahamrityunjaya mantra are very helpful. When asked about what to listen to at the time of death, Swami Kriyananda replied, “AUM is inextricably linked to the Gayatri Mantra; it helps the soul embrace death at the right time. The powerful vibrations of this mantra can also help remove the fear of death.”

As a Kriyaban, you can offer your Kriya Yoga practice up for your loved one.

With each Kriya breath, draw the energy up to the point between the eyebrows, and as you chant AUM, feel that your loved one’s spirit is being held in the light.

You will feel an expanded awareness of the heart and a sense of deepening oneness with the infinite.