A 75 year old man who is our old family friend has tried to initiate dirty conversation with me. I am 28.He has been known to be a loose man in his youth, but is sad and lonely now as no one loves him.
I ignore him since he has tried to act dirty with me to punish him. But is there any way to deal with such men which would help them to turn into good human beings?
It is unclear from your note whether this issue is being repeated in relation to other men or just your family’s friend, but, perhaps either way, I would keep your distance.
It is better not to assume any personal responsibility for changing him in this issue inasmuch as, from his point of view, you are stimulating his desires and fantasies. Let God, karma or someone else deal with his karma, but you are perhaps the last one who should even attempt to do so. You risk, in fact, being affected by negativity which does not require any sexual contact but is an imposition upon your consciousness of a lower and crude sort. Avoid such people and circumstances like you would an infectious disease.
How important is it for one’s life partner to follow the same spiritual practice and tradition? My partner is a Taoist and does not do any formal meditation practice on a regular basis but he respects my practice.
In general and based on my own experience in counseling couples or individual partners, I would say that you are fortunate to have a partner who respects your meditation practice. Taoist precepts, as I understand them, are very open and respectful in general and so I would congratulate you on having at least a degree of compatibility and especially having his respect for your spiritual practices!
All religions say that we should choose our lovers wisely. But many people can hide their faults and pretend. What if we have already fallen in love with someone with ungodly qualities and much later discovers their vices. At times it is tough to forget someone after we have already fallen in love. Emotions can’t be thrown out overnight and at times it can take a lifetime to forget someone. In that case what should we do?Pray to god to change the person?
As you have observed in your beloved, the majority of us have yet to attain perfection and still have ungodly qualities to overcome. One of Paramhansa Yogananda’s foremost disciples, Sister Gyanamata, would counsel this prayer, "Change no circumstance of my life, change me".
My brother-in-law suffered from a very deep trauma almost 20 years back, when his younger sister (with whom he was very close, and who was just 16 at that time) committed suicide by hanging herself. The wound is still fresh and he at times wakes up in his sleep and starts crying.He currently lives in Ann Arbor in Michigan. Is there any way in which Ananda can help him to heal the wound or deal with the pain. I can advise him to spend some time in the Ashram as well.
My heart goes out the to the whole family in the face of this lingering pain. Suicides, and some accidental deaths, can leave family members with a strong sense of remorse that they did not somehow prevent the tragedy. Our Healing Prayer Ministry can pray for your brother-in-law to help him resolve this deep loss and anguish. And if he is open to this spiritual path he may find comfort by going to Ananda in Michigan.
What is love? How can I stop injecting pain into my life with my expectations of the painfully unattainable kind of love that I’ve grown up on, thanks to movies and music? The attachment to the hope of a perfect fairy tale romance has probably been my biggest foe and greatest teacher so far but my healing time frustrates me. I pray for guidance every day, but I still find myself pining for it sometimes & I get so disappointed in myself.
You ask a very profound question? What is Love? Swami Kriyananda wrote a song entitled, "What is Love?" and you can listen to it on the Philosophy in Song CD. Listen to it again and again. See if it has a message for you. You may also enjoy his song "Love is a Magician".
Thank you so much for your answer to my question of how to heal two families. You said healing depends on my faith and receptivity of the other family. If my faith is stronger, then will the prayer work even if their receptivity is not so strong, or is their receptivity equally important?
Think of it this way — it is like an equation. Just as 50+50 =100, so does 99+1=100. The "99" might represent enlightened Masters who can always heal, as long as they feel it is Divinely ordained for the person involved.
So do your best. Sometimes the receptivity can simply be a quality in the heart center, some good karma from the past, but seen only by God and Guru.
In pg 27 of "How to Love and Be Loved" , Master talks about friendships of past incarnations and doing our best to sow the seed for future.If a very good friendship has ended on a nasty note within families,with broken heart,accusation and counter-accusation, can prayer on my behalf help to restore normalcy in the relationship between the family? I hope so.
Yes — prayer can heal your family...
Healing depends on the power of the healer and the receptivity of the patient. Paramhansa Yogananda
Strengthen yourself as a healing instrument through your pracitce of meditation, and by reading the healing prayer section on this website (left). Read a little bit each day and watch the videos. Use the prayer techniques taught there.
In addition to the regular prayers, please get a photo of the family, and hang it on the wall, or place it in a special prayer notebook. When you look at the photo, think of your family as being happy and well. Then "talk" to the feuding members, from your heart., silently or aloud. Think of your words as golden light, blessing them all. Ask them to resolve their differences for the sake of family harmony and love. Feel this light and love surround them in the photo.
We are all connected and by addressing them in this manner, they will receive the helpful thoughts, bit by bit. Everyone wants to be loved and understood... So please say the words with love and emapthy for all concerned.
You can also adapt the Peace and Harmony prayer to your family situation.
Try to inspire your family to use kind and courteous language with each other.
Unkind words are ruthless murderers of life-long friendships and of the harmony of homes. Banish unkind words from your lips forever, and make your home life safe from trouble. Sincere, sweet words are nectar to thirsty souls.
Make yourself attractive by wearing the fine garment of genuine courteous language. First, be courteous to your immediate relatives. When you can do that, you will be habitually kind to all people. Real family happiness has its foundation on the altar of understanding and kind words. Excerpt: Spiritual Relationships, by Paramhansa Yogananda
Your family is blessed that you want to pray for them all. You can also ask for prayers in the healing prayer section, to augment your own efforts. God bless you.
My fiancee left me two years back. Since then I am in a bad state. She was the one to pursue me, she left me and now she is happy. I am still single. While I try a lot to pray for her happiness, I always feel scared to even think that she would be happy without me with someone else. I am even more devastated to get such sinful and unvirtuous thoughts. But I am not being able to help. Why am I getting such wicked thoughts?
You feel wounded from a broken love relationship. Know you are not alone! How many songs , books and movies are about this very topic! Yet we all feel somewhat incomplete without someone to love us and for us to love in return to complete the cycle of love.