My husband and I have been trying to have a second child since my miscarriage 10 months ago. When each month comes back unsuccessful, I get so sad and depressed. I have tried praying, meditating and giving this deep desire up to God to take care of but am becoming more obsessed with it as more time goes by. I am on a fertility diet and now am trying fertility yoga. I have done everything except going on fertility drugs, which I am against. Please, any advice on how to let go of this desire?
I apologize for the delay in responding to your question. I had a family emergency that required all of my attention for about two weeks.
As a naturopathic doctor, I have a couple of things to suggest about conception and maintaining a healthy pregnancy that you may never have considered before.
One is to make sure you have eliminated any allergens and sensitivities like mold, dust, and foods that you are aware of, as much as possible from your environment and diet. I have seen many moms with previous histories of miscarriages have multiple children once these immune triggers were cleared from their systems. I suggest you have blood testing for IgG, IgA and IgM food, mold, and environmental sensitivities to learn what you need to avoid.
In addition, I suggest you and your husband each write a letter inviting a soul to join your family. If your child is old enough, you might ask him to write a letter as well. The letter needs to be sincere, heartfelt, and soul felt, truly welcoming a new soul into your family. These may later be a part of the baby’s scrapbook!
Once you have done these things, I suggest you follow Paramhansa Yogananda’s teachings about inviting a spiritual child into your home. Meditate about the soul you are inviting and magnetizing to you.
One of a devotee’s biggest lessons in life is non-attachment. You have indicated this desire has become more and more of an obsession. This is a time that is testing your non-attachment.
Do your best with the above suggestions and then completely offer your desires and attachments into the lap of Divine Mother. “Thy will, not mine, Divine Mother!”
May you feel God’s blessings through your journey!