Relationship with a Married Man


I am a 61 year old unmarried woman, holding a good position in the education sector. Recently, a young married man, 44 years of age, with a 13 year old son, has professed his love. I now find myself looking forward to his messages (we only connect through messages), and very rarely talk on the phone. So why and how has this closeness developed ? Does the concept of soul friendship exist? Should we and can we remain just friends? Please advise what I should do.

—Mamta, India


Dear Mamta,

I can understand the natural longing of the heart for having friendship with a man.

Unfortunately this man is married, and therefore, it is not a good idea to encourage him to continue to connect with you. He needs to give his personal attention only to his wife and his family. The best thing that you can do is to stop this connection right away. To continue this relationship can only cause suffering to all parties.

If you are longing for a relationship with a man, seek someone who is available and can give you his full attention, and strive to develop a healthy and loving relationship.

Blessings to you,
Nayaswami Diksha