When I Fall in Love…



I suffer from a bad problem. Whenever I fall in love with someone I tend to give all my self in loving that person and forget about the rest of the world. But most of the time that relationship ends dramatically and I suffer tremendously. How can I develop the power of not concentrating on that person solely?

—Aditi, India


Dearest Aditi,

Thank you for your question. It is important for all of us to remember that we have to continually expand our love and compassion – not just to our spouse and family members, but to everyone.

Here is a beautiful message from Paramhansa Yogananda on the subject:

True friendship is broad and inclusive. Selfish attachment to a single individual, excluding all others, inhibits the development of divine friendship. Extend the boundaries of the glowing kingdom of your love, gradually including within them your family, your neighbors, your community, your country, all countries; in short, all sentient creatures. Be a cosmic friend, imbued with kindness and affection for all of God’s creation, scattering love everywhere.

With Love & Divine Friendship,