Connnecting with a Departed Loved One


My Dad to whom I, my sisters and mother were intensely attached,passed away on 1st May due to cardiac arrest.He was 76 and had 3 paralytic strokes earlier but this death was unexpected and very sudden. He died within half an hour of breathlessness.Even he wanted to live more just for us.I am very disheartened as I am single and used to live with my parents. Can you tell me where his soul is now? For how long will he be around us? How can I communicate with him? Will he still bless me after a year?

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Though he did not believe in God as such, he was a very kind, responsible, affectionate, transparent,childlike and innocent human being who loved us unconditionally. The first thing our neighbors, relatives, ex colleagues and acquaintances said was that the world lost a good human being. I heard the souls of such humans rise up very fast. That means will I lose all connection with him after a year or so till I die? I want to keep him in the core of my heart forever.

—Sangita, India


Dear Sangita,

I am sorry about the sudden passing of your beloved father. Your family is fortunate to have a loving relationship with each other.

When the soul leaves the body, it goes to the astral world (heaven), the subtle sphere of God’s creation, a universe of light and vibrations of life energy. At physical death, the soul of man, clothed in an astral body of light, ascends to one of the astral planes, to continue his spiritual evolution in the greater freedom of that subtle realm.

Paramhansa Yogananda’s gave some advice on how to connect with a departed loved one: Instead of weeping and feeling a sense of loss, always send him your love. By doing so, you can help the progress of his soul; and he can help you.

Never drag him down by unreasonable feelings of selfish attachment and sorrow. Just say to him: “I love you.” Send your thoughts of love and good will, as often as you feel inclined to do so, but at least one a year.

If you are truly sincere, it is possible by meditation and spiritual development to contact the soul of your father.

By daily meditation on his soul, you might be able to contact him. Sit quietly, and meditate on God. When you feel His peace within you concentrate deeply at the Christ center, the center of will at the point between the two eyebrows, and broadcast your love to your father’s soul.

Visualize your father the point between the eyebrows, and send him soul, vibrations of love, strength and courage. If you do this continuously, and if you don’t lose the intensity of your interest in contacting your father, his soul will definitely receive your vibrations.

Such thoughts give his soul a sense of well-being, and a sense of being loved. He has not forgotten you, as much as you have not forgotten him. There is still the memory in his consciousness of the loved ones he have left behind.

If you want to feel a response from his soul, concentrate at the heart center. When you concentrate deeply enough, he may first appear in dreams.

The more calm and attuned is your mind, you might feel that he is trying to get through to you, in the dreams. As you meditate, mentally tell him: “We will meet again sometime and continue to develop our divine love and friendship with one another.”

If you send him your loving thoughts continuously, someday, you will surely meet him again. You will know that this life is not the end but merely one link in the eternal chain of your relationship with your beloved father.

I hope that Yogananda’s advice will be helpful to you.


Nayaswami Diksha