How to recover from a “toxic” relationship


How do you move on from a toxic relationship. I have excerted willpower, prayer, and so on. I cannot break away from this relationship. I am in my mid fifties and have 'suffered' with this 'addiction' to this man for 20 years. I have been the supporter. Now he has become his own breadwinner and so he treats me poorly (affairs, lies, name calling, etc), and tells me if I don't like it move on. I Dwell on this relationship, I am addicted. I don't have low self esteem. I am mad, bored, lonley.

—kat, usa


Dear Kat,

One suggestion is to start doing something good for yourself that feeds your inner life.

I don’t know where you live, but I suggest looking for a yoga class that you can attend several times a week, and also to take a meditation class.

If you can begin to feel some happiness that is totally your own, you will become unwilling to put up with the unnecessary pain of that relationship.

I would highly recommend a visit to Ananda’s Expanding Light Retreat. If you could give yourself a week to immerse yourself in learning and practicing yoga and meditation, I think it would give you the inner strength to make the break that your soul knows needs to happen.

You might also look for the book How to Be Happy All the Time. . Again, this might help you tune in to the very important energy of happiness that already lies deep within you.

Good luck and God bless you,