How Can I Contact a Deceased Loved One?


I lost my ex-boyfriend 8 months ago. He committed suicide. I dreamed of him last night that I was at his funeral. I could feel the hurt. My heart was so heavy. It all felt so real. I have so much to say to him and I really want to connect. Please, if he has anything to say to me, could you please tell me? I need to know so that I can move on.

—Mercedes Anderson, USA


Dear Mercedes,

I am so sorry about the passing of your ex-boyfriend. The fact that you remember your dream and felt so deeply about it carries some weight of real contact. It is possible to help those who have passed with our thoughts and prayers. Also, to send him comfort and love from your heart to his soul. Although, you should not be too attached or you will not be helping him only keeping him bound. You are right in your hope to move on from this grief.

Paramhansa Yogananda gave advice on how to connect with a departed loved one: Instead of weeping and feeling a sense of loss, always send him your love. By doing so, you can help the progress of his soul; and he can help you from where he is now. Never hold him back by unreasonable feelings of selfish attachment and sorrow. Just say to him “I love you.” Sending your thoughts of love and good will whenever you feel inclined is best.

Visualize your friend at the point between the eyebrows and send his soul vibrations of love, strength and courage. If you do this when you think of him, his soul will definitely receive your vibrations. This way you are giving his soul a sense of well being and the sense of being loved. This is important for his soul to feel this and accept his next step and also move on.

Mentally tell him: “We will meet again sometime and continue to develop our divine love and friendship with one another.” If you can do this, you will feel a response from his soul to yours at the heart center.  That may also be the reason or purpose of your very touching dream.

Many blessings on your efforts with your dear friend.

Nayaswami Hassi