Feeling Better in Dark Situations

Question

Hi,

Swami Kriyananda has always emphasized that we should always feel better about ourselves amidst dark situations.

How can I practice that?

Right now I am in a dark situation as I’m jobless, out of a bad relationship, financial difficulties, bad friends etc. etc.

As I look for a solution, I can’t help being dragged down by my emotions of resentment and bitterness.

What kind of attitude should I have? How can i bring myself toward the Light in this darkness?

—Meena, UK

Answer

Dear Meena,

Swami Kriyananda always emphasized that we should feel good about ourselves during all situations, dark or light, happy or sad. The way you learn to do that is finding out who you really are. Please see my blog on this topic which goes into this subject in greater detail: Self-Esteem Issues, Anyone?

So sorry to hear of your life’s “dark situations.” That’s a lot to have happen to you all at one time! I suggest that you put yourself on the Ananda Healing Prayer list for extra prayers.

Also, it’s good to look for the blessings in the dark times of our lives. “… out of a bad relationship….” sounds good to me! Now there can be room in your life for a happy relationship!

Bad friends? No point in having those—much better to be alone! But good, spiritually-minded friends are out there just waiting to be found by you. Make it a priority to seek and you will surely find the good friends you need.

Yogananda often said: “Never beat at the darkness with a stick. Instead, turn on the light and the darkness will vanish as though it had never been.” What does “turn on the light” mean? It means to engage your energy. Energize and meditate more, seek out good company, and pray to be guided to just what you need at the time you need it. Find a good affirmation for yourself. Visualize your life as you wish it to be.

It is not necessary to let yourself be dragged down into negative emotions. Don’t focus on what is wrong. Instead, focus on the good things within and all around you and take action! There are many things you can do to make your life come out of the darkness into God and Gurus’ blessed LIGHT!