Shall I Marry This Woman?


I am a trainee doctor. I love a girl who is from arts educational side. We met around 3.5 yrs ago.I considered her my spiritual partner. she too helped me in my hard phases. But due to family pressure i couldnt marry her and she got married last year only to get divorced recenty. Since last 6 mnths we r again in contact.Now i cant leave her 2nd time.It will be selfish. I m ready to marry her. But my parents will never agree. I love dem too. i cant throw her in troubles one more time.pls guide.

—Sadananda, India


Dear Sadananda,

The most important thing that you can do to resolve this situation, is to consult with God. Set aside your preferences and meditate deeply every day. At the end of your meditation, when you feel peace in your heart, offer your question to God asking: shall I marry her or not? Then sit in the silence and try to feel in your heart what is the right answer. Take your time to do it every day, pray to God deeply and unceasingly until you know what is the dharmic thing to do.

Whatever you decide to do, make sure that you feel calm in your heart (not from emotions), that this is the dharmic act, even if it is a difficult thing to do. Then all else will fall into place as it should. (Of course, that does not mean that “all else” will be easy.)

At the same time, start to use the Peace and Harmony prayer given by Paramhansa Yogananda, to pray for your parents and this woman whom you want to marry. This will help to bring harmony and peace to all of you.

Peace and Harmony Prayer

Visualize your parents and the woman you love, in the Divine Light and then pray from your heart “Lord, fill them with peace and harmony, peace and harmony.” Repeat this over and over for about 10 times. Then visualize yourself in a divine light and say “Lord, fill me with peace and harmony,” for 3 times.

Do this 5 times a day. 3 or 4 times might work, but 5 times practically never fails.

Blessings to you,

Nayaswami Diksha