Thoughts About Eye Contact



If its not advisable to look into people eyes,due to subtle magnetic exchanges, how are we meant to relate at work with colleagues and not appear that you are shunning them by avoiding eye contact? Should we just minimize direct eye contact? On another note, there is a worldwide yoga group which I took part in few yearsago, which has a practice of eye gazing which most people found very difficult and dreaded, me included. Some refused to do it. Were these people in effect right not to take part

—Cyril, Ireland


Dear Cyril,

Yogananda said that the eyes are the windows of the soul. We can communicate more deeply with others by expressing the sincerity of our words through the eyes. Direct eye contact as we speak helps the listener feel that we are communicating directly with them. However, staring can be felt as invasive and too intimate.

An alternative if one feels uncomfortable with looking directly into another’s eyes is to look just above the eyes, to the point between the eyebrows.

This is the spiritual center of a person, and it is much better to look there than off in the distance or away from the person you are speaking to. Looking away from a person when we are speaking to them makes them feel that we aren’t really focusing on them.

I hope that helps!