I am Not Comfortable with My Sexuality


I’m not comfortable with my sexuality. Every time I feel sexual energy or have sexual thoughts I feel ashamed of myself. I know that sexuality is a normal part of the physical experience but it feels wrong to me. I feel like having these thoughts and feelings aren’t spiritual and I feel disgusted when I have sexual thoughts and feelings. I feel like if I do anything sexual, then I’m less of a person. What should I do?

—Natalie, USA


Dear Natalie, Thank you for your candid question. I am sure many sincere truth-seekers have similar questions but are uncomfortable about asking them.

Please remember that sexual energy IS only energy. What makes it good or bad, helpful or harmful, is how you choose to use it or direct it. It can be expressed or directed in a downward and outward way, that is in the usual sexual activities or thoughts. Or it can be transmuted into a powerful upward flow of life force.

Great masters of yoga understand this principle and often remain lifelong celibates, which gives them great spiritual powers. It could be that you are being called by the Divine to embrace such a calling. It is true that God created us with natural urges towards things like self-preservation, sexuality, hunger for food, and a desire to love and be loved. But we are also given the power to transmute and redirect these energy flows into higher channels and eventually into eternal bliss and oneness with God and all that is. It takes some time and energy, but it definitely can be done.

Please let us know if you would like to know more about exactly how to do this. Blessings and joy to you always!