I left home last year to a new country for work. A male colleague of mine seemed seriously interested in me, kept sending signals for an entire year, but never made a move. Nothing happened. We don’t work together anymore, but I think of him a lot. The funny thing is, I’m moving to another country in a few months, and he’s also moving to that country, although for a brief while. Do I see this as a sign from the Universe? I’m a strong, rational-thinking woman, but this coincidence?
—Pooja, India
Dear Pooja,
A coincidence or maya — it’s difficult to say. You wrote that he was giving signals all year but you didn’t say whether you signaled back! Don’t leave the consequences entirely in his hands. You should also take responsibility for what happens. A man may signal but he won’t step forward unless the woman gives a sign that she welcomes his interest. You must assent to the process of getting to know each other.
You should pray, meditate, and feel from within whether this is a true friendship. In any case, you have not yet been brought back together, so perhaps destiny or karma will reveal itself yet.
But should you both meet again, play your role with dignity, calmness and active participation, okay?
May you be blessed with Divine guidance and wisdom!
Nayaswami Hriman
Seattle WA USA
www.hrimananda.org
